One thing I’ve found to make a huge difference in the first messages you write when online dating, and your responses from them, is being in a good mood when you go online.
Women are crazy like that…they just have a sixth sense when it comes to knowing what is going on with you…even if it’s through the internet.
Of course the better the mood you’re in, the better your ideas will be when it comes to what you’re writing in your first email to a woman.
Now I’ve discovered when I’m in these types of upbeat states many things happen while browsing my favorite online dating site.
For one thing I come up with better messages to send to women at a much faster rate. It just comes to me a lot of times. For another, I find it easier to let some of the potentially frustrating things roll off my back; like women who list 8000 pet peeves in their profile, or tell me they like going to the movies AND blockbuster nights in their profile. Yeah, like I’ve never heard that one before!
This isn’t to say of course that a good message will always get a response. There are way too many other factors involved in getting a response besides your message, some within your control and some not.
A lot of times women meet a man they’re interested in, but keep their profile up just in case it doesn’t work out. In the meantime, they just don’t respond to anybody. Other times they get fed up with the ton of perverted sexual requests they get.
However I think being in a good mood and writing messages could get you four or five messages out of ten. Compare that to getting none, or one if you’re lucky, if you’re just sending silly messages she will never respond to.
I wish I had a magic pill that could make you in a great mood all the time. Of course there’s always Xanax, but I wouldn’t recommend that route.
Very few of us are in a good mood all the time, and the few that are can probably be found off meditating in a cave somewhere in India. So it’s ok if you’re not always Mr. Upbeat.
I think it’s a great strategy though to send the majority of your emails to women on dating sites when you are in these positive moods. If you do I’m confident you’ll spend more of your time responding to a first reply from a woman than you were before…
…and I bet that will extend the period of time you’re in that good mood.